March 31, 2010

40 Year Olds Don’t Know What They Want To Be When They Grow Up

I had a conversation with a friend recently who is going through a period of trying to figure out what her next steps in life will be.  She has been doing a little soul-searching to help her make these major decisions.  Recently she went to visit some family in Wisconsin and discussed her potential next life moves with her 40-something year old aunt.  “I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up”, her aunt said.  Nooo!!, I thought.  I understand that life is about the unexpected and how we deal with that, but I just don’t want to be “figuring it out” for the rest of my life.

We spend so much time trying to get where we’re headed, that we let years pass us by and are unhappy and stressed about the journey.  We forget that the journey, in fact, is life, and we will never actually reach all of our desires at once.  That sounds a little depressing, but it’s actually a good thing.  As humans, we should be continuously learning and growing.  Try to step back and have a peak from the outside looking in; it might just help you be more satisfied with the journey on which you travel daily.

As we learn and change, our goals and desires change, and that’s why we never get where we’re headed.  Remember that change is good, and if you don’t know what you want to be when you grow up (no matter how old), that’s ok.  Just be something or someone who you’re satisfied with.

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March 29, 2010

Accept What Life Brings You

I was re-reading through some of the comments I’ve gotten on past blogs, and a few of them stuck out to me on “Break Down the Barrier Between You and Your Creativity”Tobias said something that resonates with me, and I thought I’d reiterate its importance.  In reference to accepting what is so we don’t torture ourselves about what could be, he said, “if you allow yourself to be open, a completely unexpected solution might arrive out of left field, simply because you gave it space by letting go of what wasn’t working.”  Ahh…

This is key – keep an open mind to your creativity and to life in general.  I’m going to get a little personal for a minute.  I feel like I’m at somewhat of a turning point in my life… I’m making a lot of changes – good changes – and the future is uncertain.  That makes me nervous.  As you know, I am a huge proponent for personal responsibility, and with that, I want to take control of the successes and failures in my life.  But I am working on letting go of needing to be in control.  I am, of course, working toward the goals I have set for myself but am trying to allow space for unexpected solutions and changes in my plan that may ultimately be better than the plan I have set.

How many of you have set a timeline for your life at one point or another?  Ladies – don’t deny it.  We have all said at some time “I want to married by 27, start having kids by 30; I want two boys, two years apart and be able to retire by 55”.  Let go of the timeline!  Keep your goals in mind always, but allow life to happen too.  Do not fight the inevitable obstacles and alternatives life hands you – the unexpected is what makes life exciting!

When have you resisted life’s unexpected twists and turns?  How did it work out – who came out on top?  Do you have any suggestions or warnings about how to or not to allow space for change and letting go of what wasn’t working?

March 24, 2010

Haven Tuesdays

I went to Haven in Brookhaven last night, in the cute new area cropping up on Dresden where Verde is (GREAT taco spot with organic and gluten-free options).  The ambience was a sort of casual but upscale, with most patrons (well-to-do professionals still in their business clothes) eating and drinking at the bar.  One wall is covered with wine bottles and allows on-lookers to peak into a partially open kitchen.

Tuesday nights they feature a burger special, where you can order the burger with all the fixins they have put together, along with one drink off a list of about 4 white wines, 4 reds, and 6 beers or so; all for $15.  It’s a pretty good deal considering regular menu entrees are $20 to $30, and the burger will melt in your mouth.  This is not for the picky eaters though – there are no substitutions on the burger.  Check it out if you’re looking for a delicious but wallet-conscious meal with a more upscale vibe on Tuesday.

www.havenrestaurant.com

March 19, 2010

Music Industry Professionals Appreciation Day

I’ve known I have wanted to work in the music industry since I was probably about 15, around the time I started going to live shows regularly and thinking about my future.  In college, I was fortunate to have a few incredible mentors, and these people are still some of the most hard working people I know.  They taught me that honesty, hard work, and loving what you do will define your professional success, and I thank them for sharing their wisdom.

Today’s post is simply to show appreciation for every person in the music and entertainment industries who works twice as hard as what they’re paid for, keeps their love of great music in mind in all their endeavors, and who is happy to work for what they believe, no matter the praise or publicity they may or may not receive in return.

Thank you to all my friends who have two, three, or four jobs and who work with the hopes that someday it will pay off.  EVERY music consumer appreciates what you do for them!

March 17, 2010

Major Record Labels & Your Music – What’s Next?

For years, artists have sought after the record deal.  You had “made it” if you got signed by a label.  But with recent exponential growth in technology, big business can’t keep up with the individual music consumer and the technological advances that bring music to our ears.

Record labels like Universal, Interscope, and J Records are large corporations; their employment structure is rigid, and changing the ways they do business with their clients is not easy to do.  In order to change the ways a label generates revenues and makes sure they are still fulfilling their clients’ needs, they must first address what those needs are, then with respect to the current music consumer climate, devise a plan to change their practices to best address these needs, and then execute the plan within the large corporation.  And by that time, consumers have already come up with better ideas to best get their music and have developed the technologies to do so.  So while consumers are sitting at home figuring out how they can double their iTunes libraries without spending a dollar, labels are trying to forge new revenue streams to 1) pay their bills and 2) pay their clients.

What do you think is the future of major record labels?  What technologies have helped you or artists you know be able to take on the role of a major label themselves?

March 15, 2010

My Blog is Carbon Neutral!

I was recently approached about potentially getting involved with an organization that will offset your carbon footprint by planting a tree in your honor; well, not in MY honor, but in the name of Sea Legs.  I had to jump at the opportunity – after all, I do write about our responsibility to making this world great, and being socially and environmentally responsible falls under that umbrella.  Thanks to the hard workers at kaufDA who share this information with me and, ultimately, you.

How much carbon dioxide does Sea Legs create?

According to a study by Alexander Wissner-Gross, PhD, physicist at Harvard University and environmental activist, an average website causes about 0.02g (0,0008oz.) of carbon dioxide for each visit. Assuming an average blog gets 15,000 visits a month, it has yearly carbon dioxide emissions of 3,6kg (8lb.). This can mainly be tracked back to the immense energy usage from (mainframe) computers, servers, and their cooling systems.

How much carbon dioxide does a tree absorb?

The amount of carbon dioxide that a tree can absorb depends on the type of tree, light exposure, length of the vegetation period, latitude, water balance, and the soil conditions.  In short, it just depends.  And while there are myriad ways to measure the saving life of a tree, values usually vary between 20 and 70 pounds for a tree each year.

We do know, however, that a tree absorbs relatively little carbon dioxide in its first few years. The rate of CO2 absorption increases rapidly, though, as the tree gets older. During this time, the tree saves a considerable amount of carbon dioxide. The absorption rate decreases again from the age 18 on.

One tree neutralizes the carbon dioxide emissions of your blog.

The atmosphere can be relieved by an average of 11 pounds of carbon dioxide every year by planting one tree. An average blog causes 8 pounds of carbon dioxide emissions. Consequently, a tree neutralizes the carbon dioxide emissions of a blog.

Don’t you feel smarter and even better about reading my blog?  If someone you know (or you) writes a blog or runs a website, direct them toward the “My blog is carbon neutral” button in the upper right corner of this blog, so they too can promote environmental responsibility!

March 12, 2010

Ex-Pats, Female President and More About Argentina

There’s a large population of “ex-pats” and other foreigners in Buenos Aires.  While it’s the second largest city on the continent, it lacks a lot of the modern goods and services that we have here in the U.S., so a lot of foreigners are capitalizing on that and opening their own businesses there.  Even such things as recording studios, graphic design / screen printing businesses, and electronic online payment services are few and far between down there, so those who are offering those goods and services are racking up.

Police are easily bought and mercilessly heckle business owners.  Those who own retail space are forced to pay extravagant amounts of money to cops just to keep their doors open; it’s not legal, but it’s not enforced.  Innovation and capitalism-above-tradition, which our country was founded on, is not the way in Argentina.  Because of the government’s strong arm on business, the people stick to tradition.  It’s unfortunate because 45% of the population lives below the poverty line and finds jobs like dispensing toilet paper in public restrooms instead of starting their own businesses.

I think a lot of the lack of innovation in business has to do with the corrupt government that has plagued the nation for years.  Cristina Fernández Kirchner, the current president of Argentina, was preceded by her husband (Néstor Kirchner).  A lot of people think he will be re-elected once her term has expired because they both pay a lot of attention to the poor around elections times.  The Kirchners take care of “los pobres” in the coming months before an election, trick the people into thinking they are going to enact legislature in their favor, and then once he or she has won office, they go back to not paying attention to the poor.  In 2001, the country endured a great economic crash that devastated the nation.  Prior to that, Argentina had become a competitive contributor to the global market, and prices were comparable to those of a first world country (less than the U.S., but much more comparable).  Now, a beer is anywhere from about US $2 to $6 in the most expensive, tourist-driven places in the city.  My friends and I went to a fabulous steak dinner at Don Julio in the Palermo Chico neighborhood of Buenos Aires – 2 bottles of wine, steaks for three people, appetizers, the works for about US $50 total.  So you can get an idea of the effects of the economic crash on their economy long-term.

Read more here in the WikiWorld.

March 10, 2010

8 Things I Learned While in Argentina

1 – Driving: Staying in one lane (or on the correct side of the road) and traffic signals while driving is merely a suggestion.

2 – Native Argentine liquors – Gancia, which tastes like Sprite and vodka mixed, sipped out of a small glass.  I think it has about the same about of alcohol as saki (17% – 20%, half that of hard alcohol, twice that of wine); Fernet, which is really bitter and is often mixed with Coca-Cola… it’s an acquired taste.

3 – There are dogs everywhere; they just inhabit the cities.  They are nice and are used to humans, though.

4 – The people from Buenos Aires are called “los porteños”, which is actually meant to describe the people who live in any port city, but since the end of the 19th century, it is used to describe the people of Buenos Aires.

5 – Neighborhoods of Buenos Aires:

San Telmo – this is the more historic part of town.  A lot of younger people live here, and this is where most of the hostels are.  They have a market every Sunday called “La Feria”, where local artisans sell their goods – this is the best place to get inexpensive souvenirs.

Palermo – Palermo is split up into two smaller neighborhoods (Chico and Soho) and is where a lot of ex-pats and Brits live.  It’s a little more expensive, clean, new, and posh, so there are a lot of more well-to-do “young professionals” here.

Puerto Madero – The port area of Buenos Aires is very posh.  There are a lot of very new and international business office buildings here, as well as swanky hotels like the Hilton.  Everything is built around the canal, and it’s the only place in the city that overlooks the water.  There are tons of great restaurants here, but expect to pay more (white tablecloths included).

MicroCentro – I didn’t spend too much time here, but it’s more of the business area of the city.  Most people who work in the corporate world work here, and most of the business-oriented hotels are in this areas.

6 – One of Argentina’s biggest commodities is cattle, so everything cow is very popular and cheap.  Leather anything is great to buy down there; as with anywhere, there are varying levels of quality and price, ranging from US $8 all leather belts to US $300 jackets.  The stores will have higher quality usually and cost more, but they can help with sizes and usually speak English; or, you can opt for a less expensive alternative in La Feria market on Sundays, where you can get a leather jacket for as low as US $50 or so.

Also, steak is HUGE, so vegetarians beware!  They don’t eat a lot of veggies either, mostly steak and bread (also seafood like calamari and local fish) and plenty of unusuals like blood sausage and cow tongue, AKA “lengua” (no, I’m not kidding – it actually comes from the Portuguese, so blame it on them).  You can still find a salad or two on the menu at most restaurants, so don’t panic yet.

7 – If you go to Buenos Aires during their summer (our winter), you MUST take a day trip to Colonia, Uruguay.  You can actually go swimming off their sandy beaches, which is not available in Buenos Aires.  The water is warm, clean, and fresh water, as it’s actually in the river and not the Atlantic Ocean.  Rent a scooter or go-kart to get around town (US $10 or so an hour), and check out the historic district.  If the weather is not beautiful, the town is not as great, as the beaches and quiet natural setting away from bustling B.A. is its appeal.

8 – Asado: Sunday afternoons are reserved for the “asado”, which means “grilled”, where ex-pats and portenos alike get together in someone’s home to grill meat, and lots of it, all day.  Usually they’ll just have all sorts of kinds of meats that cook throughout the day and the host slaps it on the table and guests pick at it all day long.  Of course local beer, most likely Quilmes, and cheap wine (isn’t all wine cheap in Argentina??) are drank all day, and often guests will sit down for a little jam sesh.  Try and meet some people if you’re in Argentina, and if you’re there on a Sunday during summer, definitely try and get in on an asado – it’s well worth the cultural experience.

*All of the information shared here came from exploring the city and meeting incredible people, including several young ex-pats from Atlanta, young entreprenuers from Mexico, a middle-age French gentleman, una porteña from Mar del Plata, a British musician, a filmmaker from Philadelphia / Los Angeles, and several cab drivers.

If you have had the pleasure of going to or living in Argentina or have questions for me, please add them in the comments section!  I have more coming too  :)

March 9, 2010

Break Down the Barrier Between You and Your Creativity

Tobias Tinker, contributing writer for one of my favorite blogs, Lateral Action, recently wrote about the two myths about creativity that hinder some people’s ability to create.  The first is the idea of the “Creative Genius”, or someone who spends most of their time and energy just living life, and from time to time creates something perfectly artistic.  The other myth is that of the “Tortured Artist”, who lives most his life in pain and his creative ability is only realized once it’s too late for him to enjoy the attention.

Read the kick ass article here.

Tobias goes on to pose that often we put too much pressure on our creativity, like we are  constantly battling against it.  And while time, distractions, and lack of motivation keep us from being inspired sometimes, we create out of want.  I am guilty of thinking of my creativity as “the big bad demon” sometimes.  Failure and the fear of it are something I constantly struggle with, and I’m working on allowing my creativity (writing) to take on a mind of its own.  Blogging has been great for that.

So I think we must continue to learn and experience and foster a healthy mindset for creating; read a lot, carry a pen and paper (or drawing pad) around with you, try to look at situations and scenery from the outside, always keep your creative side in check, and be ready to recognize art in the ordinary.  But also remember that we create because we want to, and that making less-than-perfect art is part of the process.

Something else I try to exercise is acceptance – accepting what is and recognizing it as such.  When you accept what is, you take away a lot of the power and don’t torture yourself about what could be.

So draw down the wall of expectations, and allow yourself to accept that your creativity may be less than perfect occasionally; learn from the process, and become a wiser creator.

March 5, 2010

Make Yourself Uncomfortable with Travel

As you know, learning gets me going.  And when I travel, I learn more in that week or two than I would in months at home.  When I travel, I am taken out of my comfort zone and forced into survival mode.  I have to learn directions, perhaps another language, cultural differences (don’t try and go to dinner at 7 pm in Argentina – you’ll be greeted by closed doors).  Traveling makes us wiser because all that makes us comfortable, important, and confident at home means nothing in a foreign land.  It is humbling and refreshing.

I recently took a trip with a couple girl friends to Argentina.  We went just for the hell of it – because we were all antsy to try something new and step outside the comforts of our lives in Atlanta.  The trip was truly life-changing.  And let me just tell you, I didn’t know what I was getting myself into.  Being forced into survival mode – well, that’s to say the least.

We left Atlanta on Christmas Day, which proved to be a wise choice, with our planes maybe a third full and the airports easily navigable.  We arrived in Buenos Aires’ EZE airport around 8 am with about a four hour night’s sleep and no real inclination as to where we were going.  After a quick nap in (at the time) the most comfortable bed I’ve ever slept in, we embarked on the second largest city in all of South America (behind São Paulo – I know you wanted to know what’s first).  And girl, were we unprepared.

Within the first five hours in the city, my friend had been slapped by a little boy asking for change, robbed of her $5 costume necklace (and dress ripped open in the process), and somewhat paralyzed by our limited Spanish (you would think in a “cosmopolitan” city of 6 million that most people would speak English – duh! Argentina is surrounded by Spanish speaking countries.  Why would they need to learn English??).   Luckily, my time in Spain and years of Spanish class growing up came back to me, but I was not prepared for the… how do I say this… less-than-grammatically correct “dialect” they speak in Buenos Aires.  Entire conjugations of verbs are thrown out the window, formality does not exist and is actually seen as rude and condescending… good thing I met some folks to let me know that (half way through the trip – no wonder people were short with me at first, eek!).

Although we were all certainly caught off guard by the seeming lack of mercy Buenos Aires exudes, we were able to test our limits, as people and as friends, and find out what we can really handle.  I learned so much about myself in just the first day, and that, my friends, is priceless.

By that evening, we were a little shocked yet excited about what was to come (one day down, 10 to go!).  We decided to try and meet some people on the Buenos Aires Pub Crawl, run by a bunch of 20-somethings from, yes, Atlanta (I know, I know – we go half way around the world and hang out with Atlantans).  The people participating and operating the pub crawl were some of the nicest people I’ve met and will be lifelong friends; they taught us how to be smart in our travels, what to do and what not to waste our time on, about the culture and demographic makeup of the city, and more.  I’ve always known that the best way to travel is to know someone in the places you’re going, but I did not expect to meet such trustworthy and helpful friends in my first day in a foreign place.

Remember – while you should definitely prepare yourself for any trip, there are some experiences we will never be able to plan for.  Embrace the unknown and learn from it.

If you’re planning on going to Buenos Aires or any other major city in South America, please check out the Pub Crawl.  There is one in Santiago now as well, and they are starting ones in São Paulo, Río de Janero, Quito, and Lima this year.

Check them out here, follow them on Twitter @pubcrawlBA or @Santgopubcrawl, or on Facebook’s Fan Page “Buenos Aires Pub Crawl”.

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